I'm a mom in denial

I don't even know where to begin or what to write. JT had his first eye exam this morning. We waited four months to get him an appointment with a pediatric ophthalmologist. Why did we decide to get his eyes checked at the age of 2? It is simple....At JT's 2 year check up, I asked my Ped at what age you typically take a child to the eye Dr. The Ped asked if we had a history of lazy eye. I told him I did not and T did not, but my sister did. My Pediatrician told us to take him now since my sister had a very mild case of lazy eye as a child. In fact, it was so mild, she didn't have surgery and didn't wear glasses for it. It corrected itself.

So I made the appt. and off we go. I was really expecting a routine check to make sure JT's eye muscles were ok and that would be that.....I would get the see you when he hits Kindergarten speech.

I am very mixed at what I was told. One side of me says I am a mom in denial and this Dr is full of crap. The other side of me wonders if I did anything wrong (other than have an icky genetic makeup) to cause this. I spent my entire commute to work crying.

I was told JT has severe farsightedness. While this is common in children and tends to correct itself, JT is severely farsighted for his age and it probably wouldn't correct itself. Normal for his age would be a +1 or +2. At +4 or +5, glasses are prescribed. JT is +7. The Dr even said at +7, he should be cross-eyed. JT is not even close to being cross-eyed.

JT loves to read and finds things to pick up off the floor that I can't even see. If he is so farsighted, why can he see little things from a close distance? I just don't get it.

I was told he needs glasses and a follow up appt. in 6 months.

The Dr also mentioned that if I went to see 5 other Pediatric Opthamologists, they would tell me the same thing.

I am in total shock and am devastated.

After the appt., I stopped in at the optical center associated with the Dr's office. The guy brought out 3 of the most ugly plastic (and expensive) frames. No sooner than the glasses were put on JT, he promptly took them off. So even if he DOES need glasses, how is he ever going to wear them anyway? I told the guy I couldn't do this now and walked out.

So confusing.....no symptoms....no signs....but my child can't see shit?

After spending a few hours calming down I called another Pediatric Ophthalmologist. I made JT an appt to get a second opinion. I DO want to hear 5 other Drs tell me the same thing. I'll start with 1 confirming this diagnosis.

I have no problem getting JT glasses if he needs them. I am just not 100% convinced he really does (the denial part). The second Drs office told me I would not be doing any damage to JT's eyes if we held off on the glasses for the next couple of weeks since he isn't showing any symptoms. That at least made me feel better. The guilt I have for NOT getting him glasses and thinking it would cause more damage was really bothering me.

So....no more ear tubes, but we are replacing that with a possible eye issue.

It is a good thing we are adopting....at least we won't make another child with all of these problems due to our genes....